Become a better lover: give your goddess these 3 gifts

Are you ready to be a shining star in a crowd of mediocre lovers? Do you want to be unforgettable? Master these 3 gifts and you can surprise the Goddess/s in your life with these powerful abilities.

Give him your masculine presence

Being clear and focused is one of the qualities of masculine energy. Presence is the ability to step out of the mental chatter and be in the moment. When she feels your masculine presence, she will want to open up to you. Women like to feel special. When you focus all your attention on her, she will start to feel like the Goddess that she is.

If she’s open to physical contact and the setting is appropriate, greet her with a “melt hug.” If you’re taller, bend your knees and line up with her, belly to belly, heart to heart. Place your right hand on her back, over her heart, and your left hand on her lower back. While holding it, breathe into it. When the hug ends, she looks deep into her eyes without speaking. See the Goddess within her and let her see the God within you. Then share something you appreciate about her: “You look radiant tonight.”

listen to his body

Flow is one of the qualities of feminine energy. To be in her flow, a woman needs to open her heart, connect with her body and her breath. She spends as much time listening to her body as you do her words. She tunes in to her breathing. Is her breathing shallow or deep? How do you hold her body? Is her body tense or relaxed? How does her heart feel? Is it open or closed? She allows your Presence to help open her heart and relax her body. This happens when she trusts you and feels that she can relax and give herself to the moment. The more present you are, the more she can surrender.

One way to begin to tune into her body is to lie next to her, either curled up behind her with your hand over her heart, or in front of her in the scissor position. (Scissors position: one of her legs between his and the other leg rests on her hip.) Then he starts breathing with her. If you’re facing her, you can also look into her eyes as you breathe together.

Once you’ve harmonized your breathing with hers, begin to explore touch in a variety of ways. Bring a sense of wonder to her exploration of her body, as if this is the first female body she has ever felt. Look at the texture of her skin. Is it warm or cold? Does it respond differently depending on how you play it?

Touch can be perceived differently, depending on the intention of the giver and the receiver. Are you touching her to give her pleasure or to enjoy it yourself? How open is she to receive? Is she tolerating your touch or drinking it in with delight? Bring awareness to the experience of giving and receiving contact. See what you discover.

Try something new, blindfold him and spend an hour stroking every part of his body except his yoni. (“Yoni” is a Sanskrit word meaning “Cosmic Womb”, which we use in Tantra instead of the term “vagina”). Use your fingers, lips, hands, feathers, flowers and even food. When your entire body is vibrating with desire, it will be easier to hear what your body wants sexually.

Also, remember that women enjoy both giving and receiving. Give your Goddess a chance to pleasure you too. See if she can read your body. Let him discover how you like to be touched. You may want to let me blindfold you and touch your body everywhere, accept your vajra (“Vajra” means “Lightning” in Sanskrit and is the word we use in Tantra for “penis”), to make you vibrate.

When you allow pleasure to flow, it will often lead you to lovemaking. Be open to this possibility, if it feels right. When you make love, let go of any ideas you have about what “should” happen. Open yourself to the freshness of each moment. Let your intuition be your guide. Let go of expectations and see what unfolds. Be respectful of each other. Your body wisdom will guide you to new experiences that none of you may have had before.

Honor his temple and close the door

After you make love, take time to honor and appreciate the connection you shared. Snuggle up and breathe together for a few minutes. Intercourse involves entering the woman’s body, her “temple.” After sex of any kind, and especially after intercourse, you need time to integrate your experience. One way to facilitate this is to end your sacred time together by “closing the door.” Place your hand on her yoni. Be present and hold space for her so that she can allow her experience to integrate energetically, emotionally, and spiritually. This ritual creates a feeling of fullness after making love. It also makes a woman feel that she is being honored and nurtured.

Thanks for reading this article. If you master these 3 gifts, you’ll be amazed at how women respond to you, in and out of bed. When women feel loved, they radiate love to you. This carries over to the world in general. Being a better lover means bringing more love into the world.