dating married man
Why do some single women date married men? After all, relationships with unavailable partners often result in heartbreak. Most men never leave their wives, and the ones who do are not a bargain: they are the kind of men who cheat on their wives.
But women who date married men know this from the start. So what’s the reward for getting involved with one?
She is attracted to him because he is already involved with someone else. In many cases, the boy wouldn’t turn on the Other Woman if he didn’t. The fact that he is “taken” is proof of his attractiveness. The fact that another woman’s husband desires her is proof of hers.
Forbidden relationships are filled with desire, suspense, and excitement. Married men are only available occasionally; the boy’s wife may be sick of looking at him, but the Other Woman never knows when he might sneak off to be with her. She can’t wait to see him and makes the most of their time together.
The Other Woman may consciously long for him to leave his wife, but unconsciously she is glad that he probably won’t. She’ll never have to pick his socks off the floor, listen to him yell at his kids, or use the bathroom after he’s erased 25 pages of the latest Tom Clancy.
Deep down, the woman who often dates (or is attracted to) married men has commitment issues. She may curse her bad luck, but she’s probably terrified of marriage. She may dread the day-to-day routine. She may fear boredom. She may be afraid that marriage will mean the end of her independence. She may also believe that all men are incapable of being faithful. To avoid becoming vulnerable, she continually presents herself as the accomplice in the crime rather than the potential victim.
Whatever your reasons, poaching another woman’s husband is totally wrong. And while the wife may never find out about the affair, both cheaters ultimately suffer from guilt and an erosion of self-respect.
If you’re involved with a married man, sit down and talk to yourself. Determine what exactly it is that draws you to a doomed and morally bankrupt relationship. Determine your fears and beliefs about men and marriage. Come to terms with those who do not serve you or your future happiness.
Then put one foot in front of the other. Stay away from your married man and don’t look back. The guy is not a bargain.