Everything you need to know about the female orgasm

There are several forms of female orgasm noted by sexologists today. Depending on the location of an orgasm, there are four physiological forms: clitoral, vaginal, uterine (cervical orgasm), and perineal, as well as several pathological forms: oral, rectal (or anal), and nipple.

An orgasm is a complex psychophysiological process, which is based on corresponding processes in the brain. Stimulation of specific pleasure zones in the brain leads to an objective visualization of an orgasm. These zones are activated under the influence of impulses passing through the female reproductive organs. The motor activity of the female’s body resembles convulsions. In some cases the body tenses and stretches, the pelvis rises and the whole body arches supported by the back of the head and heels, the hands tense and stretch, the jaws clench, the eyes close hard. In other cases, the body arches, wiggles, makes heavy movements, hands and legs make jerky and chaotic movements, the head turns in all directions. All this is accompanied by sound effects (crying, shrieking, sobbing, lamenting, grinding teeth, as well as sounds silenced by force of will or spasm of speech muscles, moans, sighs, etc.). Sometimes single words and incoherent phrases slip out of the mouth. A spasm occurs, which is a rather sharp contraction of the muscles of the vagina, uterus, perineum and other muscles of the lower pelvis. Usually, a girl who has not given birth and has a well-developed muscular system has 2-3 strong and several weak spasms, which gradually disappear. Women who have a weaker muscular system, are older and have given birth have only one strong spasm and 1 or 2 weak ones. All of these spasms can be felt with the man’s penis. The increased discharge in the vagina is sometimes so drastic that the penis loses sensation of the vaginal walls. In rare cases, a large amount of liquid even overflows to the outside. During orgasm the nipples enlarge and harden (nipple erection).

So how important is it that the male and female sexual organs are the same size for a woman to achieve an orgasm? Significant importance has always been given to the size of the reproductive organs in sexology and in society. In reality, things are much simpler. First of all, a successful sex life does not require a particularly large penis. It is well known that a woman can experience four types of orgasms, three of which (clitoral, vaginal and perineal) do not depend at all on the size of the male genitalia. The fourth type of orgasm, uterine, requires a certain length of the penis, but quite moderate, since most women have a relatively shallow cervix. There are no correlations between the total size of a man’s body, that is, the size of a man’s penis, and the size of a woman’s vagina. Anatomical discrepancy can only occur when there is an obvious vaginal pathology (underdevelopment of the same, cicatricial stenosis due to previous injuries, burns, etc.). In all other cases, the male and female sexual organs present a functional system, in which the vagina can stretch a lot if a man’s penis is large, and, on the contrary, can contract and tightly enclose a small penis.

So what is a clitoral orgasm? There used to be a widely held opinion that this type of orgasm is characteristic of very young women, and as women get older, the orgasm moves to the vagina. However, it is not so. The clitoral orgasm can be characteristic of any woman regardless of her age, constitution, etc.

To achieve a clitoral orgasm, clitoral stimulation is necessary. Women, whose most common orgasm is from the clitoris, can almost never achieve it if they have sex in the most common missionary position. The clitoris is outside the area of ​​stimulation. When having sex in the missionary position, the necessary stimulation of the clitoris is achieved through its contact with the back of the penis, for which the penis must be inserted at an angle (from top to bottom). It is possible if the distance between the clitoris and the entrance of the vagina is normal (about 1 inch). If the clitoris is located higher, the penis will not reach it. In this case, it is necessary to change the position or apply small monotonous stimulation movements of the clitoris with the finger during foreplay and sexual intercourse itself. The head of the clitoris is rich in blood vessels and nerve endings, so stimulating it with your hand should be very light and gentle. Sometimes it helps to use Vaseline or moisten your finger by inserting it into your vagina. If the clitoral head is too sensitive, finger stimulation can be transferred higher. These parts of the clitoris are hidden deeper and thus the stimulation can be stronger. Women with the clitoral type of orgasm will not enjoy having sex from behind. The following position is much more acceptable: Start having sex in the classic missionary position, and then bring the woman’s legs together, so that the penis stimulates the clitoris with each friction. You can change places: a man at the bottom and a woman at the top. Signs of clitoral orgasm are a significant increase in the size of the clitoris (an erection), and its temperature rising.

The second type of female orgasm is vaginal, or commonly known as the G-spot orgasm. The erogenous area in this case is the lower third of the front wall of the vagina, which requires a special technique that consists of strongly squeezing the penis against the front wall of the vagina during friction. Small frictions that are not deep and that only affect the lower part of the vagina can also be practiced, which would intensify the impact on the lower third of the anterior wall of the vagina. There are also cases of combined orgasm or clitoral-vaginal orgasm. To achieve this, try simultaneously stimulating both the clitoris and the front wall of the vagina during foreplay, and simultaneously stimulating both erogenous zones with your penis or hand during intercourse.

To achieve any type of orgasm, it is necessary that the clitoral corpora cavernosa are maximally filled with blood, and the lower part of the vagina is covered with muscles closely connected to the corpora cavernosa. By contracting these muscles, a woman not only intensifies the filling of her own corpora cavernosa by contracting the base of the penis during intercourse, but also complicates the outflow of blood from the corpora cavernosa, thus intensifying the partner’s erection and creating sensations. additional pleasures.

Unfortunately, these important muscles don’t always work to their full potential. Some women have low potency and some women do not use them properly. The task of the sexologist is to teach the woman to use these muscles in both cases. The power of any cruciate striated muscle increases with exercise, so women should do a special sexual exercise: flex the main vaginal constrictor muscle over and over again on a daily basis.

The lower third of the vagina and the perineal muscles play a very important role in the body. They form an orgasmic sleeve, the contractions of which (5-12 contractions with an interval of 0.8 seconds) create vaginal orgasm. After an orgasm, the vaginal sleeve and walls quickly relax. With the vaginal form of orgasm, a woman can experience pleasure in any position.

During uterine orgasm, the contractions of the uterus start from its lower part and are transferred to the whole body. The force of uterine contractions is equal to the force of orgasm. This orgasm is known for the so-called “sucking effect”, when the cervix “sticks” to the upper part of the vagina, after which the uterus returns to its original position.

This type of orgasm requires stimulation of the cervix. If the penis is not very long or if the vagina is too large, the penis may not reach the cervix. In this case, a woman must lie on her back and bring her legs to her stomach, which greatly shortens the vagina. Another option is for the man to lie on his back and the woman to squat on top of him. Sometimes the cervix is ​​not located in the posterior fornix of the uterus, but faces forward. To put the uterus back in place, you need to change the position so that the woman is lying on her stomach or on her side. In this position the penis does not go in the posterior fornix, but in the anterior one. If a woman is obese, intercourse is only possible in the position when the woman is on her side with her legs strongly bent at the hip joints or in a classic Bozeman position when the woman is kneeling on her forearms and elbow. man is standing on his knees behind her, commonly known as doggy style. This very position is almost the only possible position to have sex if a man is obese.

The technique of sexual intercourse to achieve this type of orgasm consists of the man performing deep friction, rhythmically stimulating the cervix and the posterior fornix of the uterus. Although you should avoid hitting the cervix too hard.

The fourth and very rare type of orgasm is the perineal orgasm. Nerve impulses begin in the perineum when it enters a state of vibration. Women with this type of orgasm sometimes experience it while riding a horse, bicycle, or motorcycle. The intercourse technique consists of stimulating the lower part of the posterior wall of the vagina with the head of the penis.

So what happens to a woman after sexual intercourse? A woman’s sexual arousal gradually decreases, and because of this, women are sensitive to men’s sexual indifference after intercourse ends. There are many complaints about men immediately switching to routine conversations or even falling asleep. These complaints express the woman’s need for caresses after intercourse. These caresses should not be of a sexual nature and therefore should not try to stimulate the erogenous zones, but rather consist of stimulating the non-erogenous zones of the woman’s body. The psychological content of these caresses is the demonstration of gratitude, tenderness, emotional relaxation. At the same time, during the caresses after intercourse, the woman shows her gratitude to the man and her appreciation of him as her sexual partner. Every man during and after sexual intercourse has a hidden need to receive evaluation of his actions from a woman. He contributes to his self-affirmation but at the same time the man becomes especially vulnerable to any kind of reproach. That’s why it’s important for a woman to express any concerns she may have about foreplay and intercourse at any time, but not immediately after sex. At this time the assessment of a woman must be positive no matter what. Keep in mind that this is not only the final evaluation of the intimacy of that night, but also the stimulus for the future. A man will always want to live up to a woman’s evaluation, especially if he was slightly above the objective evaluation. Of course, sometimes life takes over and a husband or wife still has to get up after being intimate and go about everyday things, but psychologically the best state after sex is sleep. A woman should always fall asleep in front of a man, resting in her embrace, and not the other way around.