How to turn the tables so your cheating wife begs you to stay

Discovering your cheating wife is a big blow. There is no way around that. You may feel like you’re down, but your marriage isn’t down, at least not yet.

You might be ready to take revenge on your cheating wife

What is the best revenge? It’s tempting to make him pay for hurting you. I know how hurt you must be feeling right now. But is that really the way you want to go with this?

How about revenge of a different kind? Wouldn’t it be nice if you could actually turn the tables so that your wife begs you for a second chance and she asks you to stay? You can let something other than pain and misery define your relationship.

Here’s what you need to do to really turn the tables

1) Take a break. Start by taking some time off from the marriage. A trial separation is a good idea at a time like this because it allows both of you to sort through how you’re feeling and get some distance from the emotions that may be about to boil over.

2) Say him goodbye. Send him a goodbye letter. Be very careful how you word the letter. Make sure it’s positive, optimistic, and even romantic. Explain your heart to him in this letter and then tell him that you think his interest in the other man was a sign that he is ready to move on and you accept it. Say goodbye in the letter and slip it into the mail.

3) Wait for your answer. I know it’s going to feel like it’s taking forever. You have to wait for the postman to deliver the letter and then wait to see how he will respond. It will feel like forever, but it will probably be much sooner than you expect.

4) Play a little hard to get. You don’t want to go overboard, but you definitely want her to see the error in her ways and work to get you back. Make him understand that this is a second chance and not a free pass out of jail.

5) Start over from the beginning. This is very important. You can’t go back to the way things were. As it was, your wife was cheating on you with another man. That’s not the direction you want to go this time. If you go back to the beginning and start over, you don’t hold grudges, ill will or bad blood from the past. It is a new beginning for both of you and your relationship. Make it count.