Lifters vs. Destroyers
The choice is yours!
It takes work to be a happy and positive person!
What words are you putting in your mind?
When babies come into the world they start with blank pages!
You carefully teach them the good and positive things.
Like a newborn baby, be careful what you write on “your” pages!
The words you say to yourself are powerful!
Stop and think, before you open your mouth! Curl those lips up and then speak up and say positive, uplifting words.
Words have power! Always start by saying something positive for yourself and others.
Choose your words wisely. It’s about what you’re putting into your mind!
Those blank pages!
What are you eating? Are you eating foods that are good for your body?
Or, are you eating junk food?
Are you creating intentional time in your day to think about where you want to go?
Zig Ziglar says, “be a good finder, not a fault finder.” He suggests making a list of all the things you like, admire, and appreciate about your job, your partner, family, and friends. Then enthusiastically verbalize these things in front of a mirror every morning and evening.”
Ziglar continues: “The more you emphasize the good qualities of your family, friends, and associates, the more good qualities you will find to like or love them. As a result, you will treat your family, friends, and associates with more respect, courtesy, and appreciation. Your relationships will improve.” and they will be more meaningful and happy.
Be a builder of yourself and compliment others.
When you talk to yourself, talk to yourself, say positive, enthusiastic, inspiring words that motivate and lift you up at the beginning of the day and before bed.
Change your attitude to one of gratitude.
Diely Pichardo-Johansson, MD and Life Coach in his new book, “Recovering: A Manual of How to Enjoy Joy with Minimal Energy Expenditure,” he says
“The most effective self-lifting tool in the world is a “Gratitude Journal”. She “shared this with her patients and the doctors in the support group she runs; they reported amazing results.”
She says, “Every day write down what went well for you and write the entries in positive terms. For example: “I am grateful for my delicious coffee this morning. I am grateful for my son’s hug. I am thankful for my air conditioner because it keeps me cool and comfortable in the heat of summer. Commit it in writing 5 things you are grateful for Keep it cool. Write original entries. Savor it, in complete sentences, and add Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.”
She continues, “Every night before bed, I remind myself of the things that made me happy, which quickly evolved into giving thanks for ‘good events’ that happened that day.”
Dr. Diely Pichardo-Johansson, “When I changed my thoughts, I became a magnet for better things in my life.” Her new positive attitude relaxed her enough to handle the difficult situations in her life.
Also start and end your day in a positive mood!
Write down any humorous stories, anecdotes and jokes you hear and read during the day in your “mood journal” to re-read the latter and share it with family and friends to reduce your stress and put a smile on your face.
It takes work to be happy!
Let’s try some humor:
Actress and comedian Carol Burnett got out of a taxi one day and caught his coat at the door. The driver was unaware of his plight and he slowly started to pull out into traffic. To avoid being shot down, the actress had to run alongside the taxi, down the street. A passerby noticed her situation and quickly alerted the driver. He stopped, jumped, and dropped Miss Burnett’s coat. “Are you okay?” she asked anxiously.”
“Yes,” he gasped, “but how much more do I owe you?” (From “Great Leaders Wanted” by Doug Dickerson)
Humor helps maintain composure in difficult times! And it helps build trust!
What can you do each day to build a positive mindset?
one) Zig Ziglar, “Be a “Good Seeker”… look for the good in yourself and others. Words are powerful! Start by saying positive words of encouragement to yourself and sincerely complimenting others!
two) Diely Pichardo-Johansson, MD, Change your attitude to one of gratitude. In your “Gratitude Journal” Write down each day what went well for you. Change your mood to a positive one!
3) Start writing humorous stories in your mood notebook so you can start and end your day reading something humorous!
How can you help yourself and others to be their best selves?
Giving them honest and sincere compliments.
Remember to “stop and think before you speak.” Smile and say positive words that encourage you.
Be a people builder, lifter and developer! Be a good search engine!